[1. Please Sign in before posting or writing any message. 2. Write your message in MS Word; copy and paste it into the message box before posting. 3. To register click here. Thank you.] Marist Laity Australia Forums for Discussion / Open Chat / Is it OK to have sex before marriage? Author Message andrewdumas Member # Posted: 11 Mar 2009 15:05 - Edited by: andrewdumas Reply  Recently I overhead a student say to a teacher "Is it OK to have sex before marriage?" If our secular society (or non religious/spiritual) was to answer this question - They most likely would say "Yes it is". Yes because I have the right to do with my body as I like. It is my body. I choose. How dare someone else tell me what to do with my body! Yes because how else are we to learn what our sexuality and right path is. Good relationship needs a bit of sex. Yes because our biological selves have an instinctual sexual attraction. To be a biological human, like most animals, we have an innate need to be connected on a physical sexual level. Yes because there are contraceptions (Condoms, the pill etc) available to prevent us from getting pregnant. Yes because this guy will love me more. Yes because I will get my jolly's. However, some secular proponents may also say "No". No because at a young age the likelihood of transmitting a Sexually Transmitted desease (STD) is greatly increased. No because you don't really love the person fully. No because things get messy when you have sex. Life is much easier when you keep things simple. Our church, and for that matter nearly all major religions, be it Christian, Muslim or Buddhism, would say "No". "Sex should be kept for marriage". Why do they say "wait"? When we deal with sex, we deal with the whole person. Sex is something which operates on a physical, cognitive, emotional and spiritual level. Secular society tries to equate sex as a once off experience. Without the development or understanding of the deeper meanings to sex. Sex requires an integration of the whole person. Contained within a relationship who cares for the person beyond a single point. When we have sex on a physical level, there is a biological dimension of exchange. Fluids move. I am giving to this person part of me, which even if I contracept (use a condom), we may create a person. "Am I ready to have a child with this person?" When we have sex on a cognitive level, there is an understanding of the other person which is created. "Am I willing to give over this special knowledge and sacred knowledge of myself to this person?" Sure they will see me naked, but am I prepared to accept they will honour me as a whole person. Both now and in the future. When we have sex on an emotional level, there is a creation of a special link with this person which never existed before. In a sense and for a time we become "one body". "Does this person care for me fully? Am I loved beyond the emotional high of sexual ecstasy?" Sex is much more than getting my jolly's. A number of men would say otherwise, because they do not have the emotional maturity their female partners have. When have sex on a spiritual level, we pray with our bodies and reflect the invisible image of God. Both male and female. Sex enables us, to a degree, to enter the dimension of heaven. God's gift to us which accesses the core of humanity's identity. Male and female fitting together in a cosmic union. "And I willing to go to heaven with this person?" In conclusion, I would like to say that "saving sex for marriage is very hard". Especially in a secular society which continuously bombards us with messages of "have sex now". To a degree - Keeping sex for marriage is impossible. That is where Jesus comes in. Jesus the human who walked on water. Jesus who fed 5000 people from 5 loaves of bread and 2 fish. Jesus the person raised Lazrus from the dead. Jesus the person came back to life. How? "Because of God". We cannot teach about sex - until we teach about a good and intimate relationship with God. God gives us the opportunity and ability to go beyond what seems impossible and achieve the supernatural. In this sense we are no longer just biological beasts of the wild. But children of God who seek to transform and experience a wonderful world in both the joyful and sad moments of sex. Let us not waste a second. Let us become the people we are called to be. Living our sexuality in all of life – not just in a single instance of sexual intercourse. Through an understanding of sex which integrates our deeper selves with our present selves. Through good relationship with ourselves, with our God and with the other person we will see the light and goodness only when we are ready to open ourselves to a deeper sense of being. andrewdumas Member # Posted: 11 Mar 2009 15:14 - Edited by: andrewdumas Reply  Marriage is thus very important. Because it attempts to say "I will live with you for the rest of my life" Marriage provides the basis for sex to undertake a journey and not a single feeling. Sex changes everything and marriage a is a commitment to travel with these changes. Your reply           » Username  » Password  Only registered users can post here. Please enter your login/password details before posting a message, or register here first. Living Simply Prayer Marist Laity Do whatever He tells you Open Chat Events World Youth Day 2008 Short Stories Gospel Reflections Quotes Random thoughts Reflections Forgotten Password     Register for discussion

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